Rediscovering Your Libido in Perimenopause and Menopause

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Rediscovering Your Libido in Perimenopause and Menopause

Two hands intertwined on a bed

Are you in the midst of perimenopause or menopause and feeling like your once-fiery libido has turned into a flickering candle? You’re not alone. Many women experience a decline in sexual desire during this transitional phase of life. But here’s the good news: low libido doesn’t have to be a permanent state of affairs. Let’s explore what’s happening and how you can find your mojo again.

Understanding the Libido Shift

The hormonal changes that accompany perimenopause and menopause can have a significant impact on your sex drive. Fluctuations in estrogen and progesterone levels can lead to vaginal dryness, decreased sensitivity, and changes in sexual desire. Additionally, factors like stress, fatigue, and body image concerns may also contribute to a lower libido.

Communication Is Key

The first step in addressing low libido is open and honest communication with your partner. Share your feelings and concerns, and encourage your partner to do the same. Sometimes, understanding that you’re both navigating this change together can strengthen your emotional connection and lead to a more satisfying sex life.

Self-Care for Sensuality

Self-care plays a crucial role in rekindling your desire. Take time for yourself to relax and reduce stress. This might include activities like meditation, yoga, or simply enjoying a warm bath. Prioritize sleep and exercise to boost your overall well-being, which can positively impact your libido.

Don’t forget your vaginal tissues and pelvic floor when you’re thinking about self-care. Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause (GSM) can play a huge role in your low libido, including weakness or tightness of the pelvic floor, vaginal dryness and pain as well as increased urinary symptoms. Vaginal moisturizers, vaginal estrogen, and pelvic floor physical therapy can all have a positive impact on your libido.

Embrace Intimacy

Intimacy isn’t solely about intercourse. Focus on connecting emotionally and physically with your partner through cuddling, kissing, and intimate conversations. Consider what turns you on and explore your desires. This might involve trying new things in the bedroom, reading erotic literature, or watching romantic movies together. Rediscovering what arouses you can be an exciting journey for you both.

Seek Professional Help

If low libido continues to be a concern, don’t hesitate to seek help from a healthcare professional or therapist who specializes in sexual health. They can provide guidance, offer solutions, and address any underlying issues that may be affecting your desire.

Remember, a change in libido is a common part of the perimenopausal and menopausal journey, but it doesn’t mean your passionate days are over. With patience, understanding, and a proactive approach to your sexual well-being, you can reignite the flame and enjoy a fulfilling and satisfying sex life during this phase of life and for many years to come!

If you’re looking for a holistic approach to managing your changing hormones in perimenopause and menopause, I help women navigate both the physical and emotional aspects of this hormonal shift so you can go from feeling exhausted, foggy, and irritable to clear, confident, and energized, in a way you can keep up with.

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Written by Allison Poole, PT, MPT, WHC

Allison takes a modern approach to women's hormone and pelvic health by taking the hard work and confusion out of caring for your body. She combines her 20 years of clinical expertise, compassion and personal experience to help women navigate perimenopause and menopause with ease.

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